Sometimes I find myself compensating for what I think of as “shortcomings according to everyone else.”
Here’s what I mean:
- When in public, Noah’s and Judah’s odd, quirky behaviors stand out. Therefore, Imust look striking so people won’t think ill of me or my family.
- Because my boys have significant academic and social delays for their age, I must come across as the smartest in social circles to make up for the “loss.”
- When people make intentional ignorant snide remarks, I must pretend it doesn’t bother me at all.
- I must be the bravest, the strongest, the wisest, the most sincere, the least offended, the best-looking, the most confident, the funniest, the most likely to succeed…the B-E-S-T. Period.
Here are the facts…
- My confidence dwindles when I begin to compare myself with others.
- There is so much I don’t know. The more I think I know, the more I find I have to learn.
- A lack of understanding and a curious mind is a compliment for me, but parental advice wrapped in sarcasm does hurt.
- I’m rarely, if ever, the bravest, strongest, wisest, the most sincere, least offended, best-looking, most confident, funniest, or the most likely to succeed. Period.
Here’s what I know:
“If you are paralyzed, you can still walk with God.
If you are deaf, you are still able to hear the Word of God.
If you are blind, you are, nevertheless, able to see the Light.
And even if you are mentally handicapped, you can still have the Mind of Christ.”
(Joni Eareckson Tada, God’s Word on Disability, p.432)
There are no differences between my sons and me.
There are no “comparables” between your disabilities, my handicaps, and their delays…
…because we were all made in God’s image.